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March 2022 Update

I had a really enjoyable month throughout March.

It has literally taken me nearly another month to post about it but I have been in such a funk recently I just haven’t felt motivated to do much of anything.

But in March we did go on holiday to South Devon and it was lovely. We stopped in a nice little lodge (well, caravan) with a hot tub in a beautiful site called Finlake and we honestly had the best time. It was exactly what we both needed I think.

I also finally managed to get my Wardrobe room sorted after IKEA massively screwed up our home delivery. But it is all in place now and I am so proud to have such a big spacious wardrobe for all my clothes.

I have spent most of my life with everything shoved into a small space so it feels really nice.

Anyway, I don’t really have the time or energy to post in here at the moment. I guess I am just working hard to keep the blog semi alive. Haha

Life Updates! February 2022

Well, it has been a rather odd month in my life this February. It did start off with me feeling very productive and I was spending my time checking everything off the to-do list and feeling full of motivation.

And then I hit a few personal set-backs. My day to day routines were disrupted and left me at a bit of a loss. I felt massively unmotivated and, as a result, I just let most things slide and focused totally on myself, which is important. Of course, I also spent the time watching endless YouTube videos. We have all been there, right?

I felt properly unwell and fatigued all the time, and everything was a bit cack. Floors went uncleaned and blog posts went unwritten. Frankly, I was stuck in one hell of a funk! And I am still feeling a bit stuck if I am honest. But I have finally found a path out of it, so I will wait and see where it leads me. 

One thing I did do, which did make me feel like I was making some progress, was to design, create and order my new wardrobe room and clean and paint my room in preparation for it which I had been putting off since we bought the house – so YAY for that. 

So I guess with this update I just wanted to say that sorting your life out isn’t always about getting loads of things done. Sometimes it is about looking after number one – because that is what you need at that moment.  Your physical and mental wellbeing is way more important than the pile of laundry that will still be there tomorrow. 

So, goodbye February and winter 2022, and bring on March.

Life Updates! January 2022

I have to say, this month was lightning fast. Before I could even register what week we were in, it was the end of the month. Although, at the same time, it has also felt incredibly long going. It was quite a productive month in some areas, likely because it is January so I am still full of the inspiration that a new year brings.

In the past, I have recognized that I try to make progress on too many different things at once, instead of really focusing on one thing at a time and making great progress there. So this month I was determined to first concentrate on just one thing – and it was my health.  Because life ain’t much of a party without that, is it?

Right from the very start (as I mentioned in my previous post) I wanted to focus on getting a bit of exercise into each day which, I am very chuffed to say, I did. At least for the first 3 weeks of the year anyway. I joined the Couch to 5k and immediately started on that 3 times per week which I found really enjoyable. I did some of the classic Joe Wicks workouts and other times it was just some strength training videos taken from YouTube. Whatever I did, I was consistent with it and I considered it a win! 

The most significant progress though was with my health condition.  I have long been battling with Urinary Retention and all the problems that come from dealing with that and have been utterly miserable about it for the last few years because the Covid-19 Pandemic resulted in constant medical appointment delays or cancellations. So I decided to roll my sleeves up and put it as my main priority focus this January and demanded of myself that I made some positive progress in this area – even if it meant I had to be a total Karen while pestering the medical professionals.

So I made a few urgent phone calls to a few important people and eventually got the results I was looking for and an urgent operation was booked for me for the last week of Jan. Win win (and also yikes for the sudden onset of fear about having the op).

But I think it went well. It’s hard for me to tell at the moment because I am still recovering at home with an ever-delightful urinary catheter attached to my leg but I am remaining optimistic. Just a few days ago I could barely get out of bed. But I am feeling a lot better now. I have suffered from this problem for over 20 years now and I still don’t have a diagnosis BUT I am getting closer and closer.  Chronic illness is physically, mentally and emotionally draining and the last year has knocked me on my arse.  But there is a light at the end of this long tunnel and I am going to keep pushing towards it.

There is still a mountain of work to be done before I can consider myself fixed in that regard, but I have made very significant progress. Amazing what you can do when you just DECIDE to get something sorted and just DO IT. 

A work in progress……

Next month I have some holiday booked from work and I aim to focus on enjoying myself but also working on decluttering and getting the house decorated as that project has been on hold for waaaaaaay too long now. 

I also plan to spend some more time on developing this blog, so stay tuned for a post on the simple way I managed to exercise nearly every single day in January and on the big decluttering challenge I am going to be undertaking soon. 

Until then, please tell me……

What went well for you in January?

Work Bitch!

All through my twenties I stayed slim. All while eating whatever the hell I fancied. I snacked on chocolate bars every day, drank coke like it was water and obsessed over junk food. McDonald’s was basically my kitchen back then. 

Bloody hell, I was lucky! I had a great time! 

But from the moment I hit 30, it all went downhill. No longer could I fit into my size 6 clothes and I started to look pregnant on a daily basis. My mum told me that she seemed to put on more weight when she hit 30 as well. Mum’s always right, huh? I guess I should have took her warning and prepared better.

I realised that something needed to change. NOW!

Right now I am about as fit as a slug. Actually…….no, slugs manage to drag themselves around don’t they? Great, I am worse than a slug. Normally when I decide to “get fit and healthy” (at the start of January as a resolution, anyone?) I focus on dieting and it lasts all of a few weeks.

This time, I am going to focus on my fitness first. Cardio and strength training. 

On the rare occasion that I DO do any exercise, I am usually filled with this beautiful feeling of utter achievement (I believe its called endorphins?) and eating healthier naturally seems to follow. I mean, I don’t want to undo all the hard work I have just done, do I? Whereas the other way around? No way! I am usually utterly miserable after just eating a salad and certainly don’t want to follow that disappointing meal with an hour of utterly unbearable exercise. Sod that!

So I joined the gym the other day in an attempt to get fit and lose weight. *rounds of applause* 

If you have read my previous post you will already know how I intend to work towards this goal. 

Baby steps.

Slowly wins the race.

So my goal is one exercise class per week

That’s right, just one! 

And to make it even more embarrassing, it’s Aqua Aerobics. 

I bet you are laughing at the thought right now but it is all about the baby steps, remember! So I shall start there and see how I get along. If I said I was joining the gym to go 5 times a week I would most certainly be kidding myself!.

I have a plan! 

(Oh, I love me a plan)

The plan is to go to one exercise class per week for a whole month to get into the swing of things and then add to it. Slowly

I started this week and I was the youngest person in the pool by about 30 years. I was also clearly the most unfit. Cringe. But I loved it and totally felt like Lara Croft when I got out of the pool.

So yes, I am still a slug, but I am making progress. And that makes me fitter than I was last week. 

Fancy joining me? Decide on just one SMALL thing, wack it in your diary and DO IT! EVERY WEEK! NO EXCUSES! Prioritise it. 

Share what you get up to in the comments below or on Instagram (UserName: dharma.rocks). I would love to know what small changes you are making.

THANKS FOR READING – DHARMA ROCKS Xx 

A Poison Called Comparison

Since starting this blog, it’s been difficult to come up with what to blog about. When I look at other blogs all I see are super HD photos of beautiful girls on a white sandy beach or fantastically prepared Vegan meals (which explain their amazing beach bodies, right?). 

Looking at all that, I started to feel like I wasn’t good enough. I thought, “why am I even doing this?”.

I do the same thing when I want to post on Instagram. I spend hours scrolling through images of perfect bodies, amazing outfits, fantastic holidays and people achieving fantastic things and I am left feeling like that slug again. Suddenly, that image I wanted to post of my new meditation journal seems to pale in comparison. 

I compare what is popular and “on trend” and suddenly feel the need to post a picture of an overpriced Latte from Starbucks instead! It is such a shame that I should feel that way over posting a picture of something that interests me, gets me hyped up or improves my life.

This isn’t who I want to be. It’s NOT who I am. But I can’t help but compare nonetheless.

Here I am, sitting in my grubby dressing gown that has gone far too long without a wash, the remnants of last night’s makeup, knotted hair and suddenly the feeling that I am doing something very wrong with my life. And why? Because all the girls I am looking at are looking gorgeous, traveling somewhere exotic or showing off some latest feat or purchase.

Before I know it I am feeling totally unworthy. Totally rubbish. Totally sluglike.  

And then the negative thoughts start…..

“I don’t want to wear my new hat when I next go out, because people will think I am trying too hard”.

“I don’t want to write a blog post because it will be boring”.

“I don’t want to post on Instagram because my photos are rubbish”.

Before I was even aware, I had gone from feeling surges of excitement at the prospect of having a blog and being creative to feeling like a total joke. 

Nothing REAL had caused this fake reality. Nothing. Except for the personal poison I fed into my mind. The poison of comparison.  

So, to attempt to fight this feeling, I am posting today.

It’s 6.30pm and I am still wearing my grubby dressing gown. In fact, total honesty time….I am wearing it OVER my work uniform! (What, it was cold?) I still have my shoes on! I have just eaten 2 Cadbury Mini Rolls, my hair is a frizzy mess and I have no idea what I am going to find for tea that is even remotely healthy, let alone Instagram worthy! Oh – and my underwear doesn’t match! 

But this FAKE reality I try to create? Well…….

My Instagram will tell you that I have had a wonderful coffee in a cute little cafe today and that I am feeling chill, without a care in the world. You would have no idea that I actually just grabbed a quick sausage roll from Greggs because I had to run into town on my lunch and got completely soaked (hence the frizzy hair!). 

We only post the highlights.

So, it’s so SO important that we remember that the pictures we see are NOT current reality. People tend to post the highlights of life and that is OK. Why wouldn’t you? You wouldn’t want to post the low’s when you can show off your high times. We just HAVE to remember that and try not to compare ourselves to it. We should be happy for others when they show their accomplishments but always remember not to compare with them. We should also remember to be grateful for our own lives and what we have to share with the world.  

Anything that makes you happy, brings joy to your life or you are super grateful for is amazing in itself. We should not feel the need to be perfect, fake or copy an image in order to prove to the world that we are happy and living our best life. If we are sharing what is REAL to us then we will naturally show our happy journey, without effort. 

So show your true colours. Post photos of your family, your best friend, your pets or your McDonalds Happy Meal (when you feel you have really deserved it). Be true to yourself and if it makes you smile, great! Post it!

Right, now that I have got that message off my chest – I am off to post that Insta Picture of my Meditation Journal.  

What pictures make your heart smile? Post on Insta or FaceBook with hashtag #iloveitsoipostit and I will come and give it some love. 

THANKS FOR READING – DHARMA ROCKS Xx

Another Year Over……..And A New One Just Begun

HAPPY 2022!!!

Welcome to my site! Wow. I have wanted to start one of these for years and I finally decided the time was now. Why wait? The start of a new year is perfect!

Truth is, there is never a perfect time to start on something you want to do. When you want to do something you should just start it, now, straight away.

But if you are a manic OCD like me, it’s not always that easy. With me, I used to have to start at set times. Usually a Monday. Or the 1st of a new month or season.

But a New Year……..now that is PERFECT!

Sod all the miserable gits that moan about the whole ‘New Year, New Me’ – you have the power to make 2022 your best year yet!

I know I certainly intend to!

This is literally my favourite time of the year. It soothes the soul. I just have so much creative energy at the start of a year. I feel super motivated and enthusiastic about making positive changes in my life and working towards exciting goals.

I have visions of a toned healthy body, more money than I can count and finding fulfillment in pursuing my goals.

However, we all know from experience that these feelings don’t last forever. Come to Springtime we are usually broke, feeling bored with life and stuffing our faces with everything that numbs the feeling of an uninspired life.

Because visions and dreams are not enough to get you to where you want to go.

You need a plan.

(Oh, I do love me a plan!)

So, here is what I am going to do. Feel free to copy me – let’s do this together!

Find out what is important

First of all, you are going to sit down and think about what is important to you.

Write a list of all the things you want from life, and then prioritise it. There will be plenty of things you want, but there will be very few things you are actually willing to work and sacrifice for.

A good way to do this is to look at goals or resolutions you have made in the past and you haven’t kept. *cough* giving up junk food *cough*

If you haven’t kept to them in the past, the truth is, you probably don’t really want it that bad and you are likely not to put in the required effort.

But, if you really DO want it, you have to take daily action towards it.

Next, when you have an idea of things that you really really REALLY want – write them down as GOALS.

List your goals

So now you’re sitting looking at a short list of goals. Hopefully, you didn’t make too many. It makes them easier to follow if you can count them on one hand.  I have 5 major goals I hope to achieve this year.

Make sure you keep this list somewhere you can read it regularly. In your handbag, your journal, above your bedroom mirror etc.

Just be better

It’s going to be practically impossible to achieve everything straight away, but you can always be better. And being that little bit better every day will eventually lead to achieving your goals without all the stress.

You might not be the healthiest person in the world, but you are going to be healthier than you were last year. You are going to be richer than you were last year. Etc

How do you do it? Baby steps! You are not going to suddenly become a size 6 overnight, but you can commit to swapping one bad meal a day for a healthy one, to eating a few extra pieces of fruit per week, and for swapping one bottle of beer for water each weekend.

You are not going to get amazing abs overnight, but you can commit to actually walking instead of taking the car and doing a few sit-ups while you watch an episode (or twenty) of F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

You are not going to be the worlds richest person overnight, but you can commit to putting an extra £20 a month into your savings account, checking online for cheaper phone insurance and buying one less Pumpkin Spiced Latte with extra cream from Starbucks!

So forget the goal of “I am going to be healthy”. What does that even mean anyway? Instead, you are going to be healthier. Healthier than you have ever been. And how are you going to do it?

Small, manageable steps.

Long story short, you are going to be better. And with very little effort on your part.

Ready to make 2022 awesome?

What have you been putting off that you are going to smash on your goals list this year

Let’s start the journey. Together!

THANKS FOR READING – DHARMA ROCKS Xx